If, when presenting a new idea, it is the first instinct to think about the worst scenario that can happen or whenever communication is ambiguous your first conclusion is tied to something negatively, surely you have an anxiety thinking, Hardward Business Review writes and transports a Business Pulse.
But what you can certainly learn is to recognize when you look at things through 'anxiety goggles' and adjust your thinking so that it does not limit you. Here are some of the common ways anxiety causes work problems, but also suggestions to reduce them.
1. You judge the way you look at each other
Anxiety people are constantly concerned about the opinions of others and feel that others do not like them or not see them as talented people. For example, let's say your co-worker does not welcome you too warmly as it works with others and it makes you always accelerate your interaction. Logically, you assume then that he or she does not like you, but there are other reasons as well: they may be more cordial with people they know more about. Because you have the feeling that you do not like them, you avoid these colleagues, but then you can give them the impression that you do not really love them. Instead, it is important to know that you misunderstand human interaction with you and, more importantly, to understand that even if your fellow is not so attached to you, you can still achieve a good relationship.
2. Make a defense response to feedback
Anxiety people often have the desire to succeed, so they want feedback that will be useful in further progress, but they also look at it as criticism as if it were an indication that they were destined for destruction. If this sounds familiar, it's important to understand the true purpose of 'feedback' and be open to criticism. You need to shape your reaction to feedback so you can get what's best and most useful for you and plan a plan to implement all the suggestions you've got.
3. You are looking for situations that you later experience as unpleasant
People are inclined to avoid things they are worried about, and then feel bad about avoiding what causes confusion in communication. Such a problem can be manifested in small but big ways. You may feel uncomfortable because you have to respond to someone at the mail so that the response is delayed, but the impression you leave behind is that you are irresponsible, unreliable, or unorganized. Therefore, in most cases it is best to be honest about what causes your hesitation because you will not always get the understanding you are hoping for, and with a more honest approach you will increase your confidence, reduce stress at all, and will often be considered a cheerful and authentic step forward.
4. You have negative reactions when unexpected ideas are presented to you
When you introduce yourself to a new idea, if your first thought is to take into account all the risks, disadvantages, and reasons you would not do it, others would probably depend on your instinct or even worse, feel like not exactly the desired negative energy. Even if it's just your first reaction, it can be demoralizing to others, who see the positive side, boring. It is therefore important that you learn that your response to new ideas largely looks at the good side and the benefits you would have, and then you can highlight your worries with a positive note. Also, one of the strategies may be delaying the reaction for several hours so that when you give your answer, it is meaningful and constructive.
On the other hand, people's anxiety can be motivated in very positive ways: for example, fear of rejection can make you work more intensely on relationships and deeply evaluate relationships, be sensitive and cautious when dealing with difficult tasks. The better you understand how your anxiety works, you can increase its positive aspects, and minimize negative so you can accept yourself and deal better with the challenges that appear at work.
But what you can certainly learn is to recognize when you look at things through 'anxiety goggles' and adjust your thinking so that it does not limit you. Here are some of the common ways anxiety causes work problems, but also suggestions to reduce them.
1. You judge the way you look at each other
Anxiety people are constantly concerned about the opinions of others and feel that others do not like them or not see them as talented people. For example, let's say your co-worker does not welcome you too warmly as it works with others and it makes you always accelerate your interaction. Logically, you assume then that he or she does not like you, but there are other reasons as well: they may be more cordial with people they know more about. Because you have the feeling that you do not like them, you avoid these colleagues, but then you can give them the impression that you do not really love them. Instead, it is important to know that you misunderstand human interaction with you and, more importantly, to understand that even if your fellow is not so attached to you, you can still achieve a good relationship.
2. Make a defense response to feedback
Anxiety people often have the desire to succeed, so they want feedback that will be useful in further progress, but they also look at it as criticism as if it were an indication that they were destined for destruction. If this sounds familiar, it's important to understand the true purpose of 'feedback' and be open to criticism. You need to shape your reaction to feedback so you can get what's best and most useful for you and plan a plan to implement all the suggestions you've got.
3. You are looking for situations that you later experience as unpleasant
People are inclined to avoid things they are worried about, and then feel bad about avoiding what causes confusion in communication. Such a problem can be manifested in small but big ways. You may feel uncomfortable because you have to respond to someone at the mail so that the response is delayed, but the impression you leave behind is that you are irresponsible, unreliable, or unorganized. Therefore, in most cases it is best to be honest about what causes your hesitation because you will not always get the understanding you are hoping for, and with a more honest approach you will increase your confidence, reduce stress at all, and will often be considered a cheerful and authentic step forward.
4. You have negative reactions when unexpected ideas are presented to you
When you introduce yourself to a new idea, if your first thought is to take into account all the risks, disadvantages, and reasons you would not do it, others would probably depend on your instinct or even worse, feel like not exactly the desired negative energy. Even if it's just your first reaction, it can be demoralizing to others, who see the positive side, boring. It is therefore important that you learn that your response to new ideas largely looks at the good side and the benefits you would have, and then you can highlight your worries with a positive note. Also, one of the strategies may be delaying the reaction for several hours so that when you give your answer, it is meaningful and constructive.
On the other hand, people's anxiety can be motivated in very positive ways: for example, fear of rejection can make you work more intensely on relationships and deeply evaluate relationships, be sensitive and cautious when dealing with difficult tasks. The better you understand how your anxiety works, you can increase its positive aspects, and minimize negative so you can accept yourself and deal better with the challenges that appear at work.
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